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WRONG WORDS ABUSE FLAUNT CONTENTIOUS
So many wrongly used words. It's amazing. The words you have used to describe me are very rarely if ever used. For good reason. They describe very unusual and antisocial behavior. I don't recall coming across any of the words defined below in any conversations, not even in literature, movies, television programs, interviews etc. They are rare words because they are volatile. They are simply too strong for ordinary use. You had no business using them.

ABUSE; AT BASE IT MEANS ANY ACT WITH INTENT TO HARM. ANY HARMFUL ACT. NOT IN THE DICTIONARY, BUT DICTIONARIES ARE STUPID.


Abuse is a pattern of behavior in which emotional coercion is used to gain or maintain power or control in a relationship. cursing swearing, attacks on self-esteem, blaming, criticizing your thoughts feelings. To speak insultingly, harshly, and unjustly to or about; revile; malign. intimidation or manipulation of another person or an intrusion into another's psyche; the purpose is to control another person. It is generally a long term pattern of behavior although specific short term interactions can be labeled abusive. Not a commonly used word. One to be used with great care. And by no stretch of the imagination does it apply to me, or to anyone I know, except a handful of very disgraceful co-workers I have been forced into contact with. And occasionally a family member temporarily driven to distraction because of too much proximity. That happens. That is not abuse. It is temporary insanity. Normal traumatic syndrome. But you are saying something quite different from that about me. You write; See why no self-respecting human being can tolerate such abuse. No such "abuse" happened. I never spoke insultingly, harshly, and unjustly to or about you; never reviled or maligned you or resorted to intimidation or manipulation. Never resorted to cursing, swearing, attacks on self-esteem, unjustly criticizing your thoughts or feelings. Never used emotional coercion to gain or maintain power or control in a relationship. That's all in your mind. Warning. use with great care. A highly insulting and inflamatory word. Few people deserve such a description. Most of us can go a lifetime without ever ascribing it to anyone. It's police blotter level stuff.

Intimidating. To make timid; fill with fear. To coerce or inhibit by or as if by threats. I don't do that. Nobody does that in normal civil relationships. I have never heard the word used to describe ordinary interactions. It is an extreme word. It means to frighten into submission, compliance, or acquiescence. Intimidate implies the presence or operation of a fear-inspiring force. Warning. use with great care. Few people deserve such a description.

hyperbole

Yup, you are not innocent of hyperbole either. Enough accusations, which can always be matched from the other side

THIS ONE YOU GOT WRONG IN REVERSE. IT IS A VERY MILD WORD. ACCUSING SOMEONE OF HYPERBOLE IS FAR LESS THAN CALLING SOMEONE OUT FOR TOO MANY, POSSIBLY FALSE, EASILY MATCHED ACCUSATIONS.

A figure of speech in which the expression is an evident
exaggeration of the meaning intended to be conveyed, or by
which things are represented as much greater or less, better
or worse, than they really are; a statement exaggerated
fancifully, through excitement, or for effect.

Our common forms of compliment are almost all of them
hyperboles. --B


hyperbole lies without deceiving.
--M

Highhanded; given to haughty disregard of others. Aside from Jules and Noel, who do we know who is highhanded? Certainly not me. Haughty disregard of others? Be more careful with the words you chose. I am not highhanded. I don't act in an arbitrary manner. Look what that implies. highhanded or arbitrary. Warning. use with great care. A highly insulting and inflamatory word. Few people deserve such a description. Better just avoid it.

arbitrary Based on whim: based solely on personal wishes, feelings, or perceptions, rather than on objective facts, reasons, or principles. Exercised according to one's own will or caprice.
Nobody has ever described me in such a way. The words highhanded and arbitrary are very rarely if ever used. For good reason. They describe very unusual and antisocial behavior.

Overbearing... An overbearing person tries to make other people do what he wants in an unpleasant and forceful way. Tending to order people around. Expecting unquestioning obedience; arrogant and tending to order people around. Tending to order people around??? I don't do anything of the kind. What the hell is wrong with you!! Having or showing arrogant superiority to and disdain of those one views as unworthy. Domineering in manner; arrogant. Warning. use with great care. A highly insulting and inflamatory word. Few people deserve such a description.

Flaunt. Here's another totally idiotic mistake. To parade or display oneself conspicuously, defiantly, or boldly. I don't do that. Normal people, sane people do not flaunt or parade. That's for loons and exhibitionists.


Ungracious; Lacking social grace or graciousness; rude. Not welcome or acceptable; unattractive. Warning. use with great care. A highly insulting and inflamatory word. Few people deserve such a description. A truly ungracious person is a rarity,

Contentious; given to squabbling. given to argument for it's own sake., switching arguments to serve one's self-defensive needs of the moment, wearing down you supposed opponent with faulty arguments. Bickering. And, dictionaries don't do this, but there should be a warning. use with great care. A highly insulting and inflamatory word. Few people deserve such a description. A truly contentious person is a rarity,


And I certainly don't have to look up rude, cruel, hostile, belittling, deprecating or insulting.
Like the ones I've gone to the trouble of defining, they are extreme words that should be used with care, if at all. I am not rude. Certainly not cruel. Belittling? I'm belittling? Don't be ridiculous. That's laughable. I am not a hostile rude cruel or belittling person. Or overbearing, arbitrary, highhanded, abusive, or blocked by an astonishing degree of self-centered lack of empathy that you couldn't comprehend.

These are crazy words, thrown around with no thought.


How can you think things like that, let alone say them!? To me?! About me! It's incoherant.

For God's sake, what kind of a friend uses language like that. I am not overbearing. Look at what you are saying about me. Overbearing; Expecting unquestioning obedience;



Don't just throw words around. They have meaning. Yours just miss the mark, are completely untruthful and insulting.


Rude, ill-mannered and ungracious.

Ungracious? What kind of a word is that. To use about me. I'm not ungracious. That would apply to a lunatic. Lacking social grace or graciousness; rude. Not welcome or acceptable; unattractive.





When you've had some insight and are able to acknowledge that a conversation isn't all about you, we'll be ready to talk about some protocols to minimize/avoid such behaviors in future.

Conversation isn't all about you!!! What kind of social slob would that describe?







You even called me a philistine. A philistine is a smug, ignorant, boorishly uncultured person. If there's a milder definition I couldn't find it. How could the word philistine come into play in a conversation about me? I'm not and never have been a philistine, a smug, ignorant, boorishly uncultured person. Smug, ignorant, boorishly uncultured. Are you out of your mind. Smug, ignorant, boorishly uncultured? Boorishly uncultured!!?? Smug, ignorant? Ignorant? Smug? Uncultured? You just obviously use any word that comes to mind if it has some power or drama. What a ridiculous way to express yourself. Philistine? Me? Don't be ridiculous. It's totally nuts!